DISCONNECTION FROM YOUR TRUE SELF is the catalyst for self-manipulation & the manipulation of others. SHAME, which can be defined as self-humiliation suffered due to one’s own wrongdoing and foolishness, is a painful feeling that I have yet to describe with spoken Language. My best attempt to describe it is akin to being ripped apart from the inside while hemorrhaging until there is nothing left to bleed. In my opinion, it is the worst of the negative emotions that human beings can feel.

Due to the intense, overwhelming and destructive nature of this emotion, many individuals seek to avoid it at all costs, which severs their connection w/reality. An individual must learn how to connect with this emotion in a way that reduces its power such as;

✅Sitting in the “ick” of them emotion in order to process & understand its origins

✅Understanding that pain is a necessary human emotion which leads to personal growth

Rather than practice the allowance of negative emotions, some individuals rewrite their own history to NOT include events which result in feelings of shame which creates a fracture in the true self. When an individual does not allow connection to their “true self”, all of their subsequent self-dialogues & motivations will be predicated on LIES. IOW, an individual’s true self can NEVER be realized if ALL truth is not accepted; they are just “saying shit” that fills the void in a way that keeps them comfortable.

On a personal level, when I first realized that there were major discrepancies in who I “thought” I was & who I “really” am, I went back in time to find the sources of these disconnects with my true self. What I found in those places was shame so extreme that I hemorrhaged from every pore in my body. It was almost intolerable to sit in that emotion until the blood ran clear. However, I sat in it until it became bearable, I accepted myself & began to understood the place at which my wrongdoings came; I sat in it until I became whole again.

The shame still comes but I no longer bleed, I sit with it and thank it for allowing me to become whole again.

⭐️Once a tolerance for shame is developed, NOTHING & NO ONE will have ANY power over you.