There is a person in my daily life who has been problematic for years. 2 years ago, I tried to alleviate the problem but was new to confrontation & handled it poorly. In addition, the other person also did not take hearing negative information about themselves very well & rather than think that maybe there was truth to what I said they were determined to burn my life down.

In pop culture terms, this person’s behaviors could be labeled as ONE-UPPING, GRANDSTANDING & GLORY-HOGGING. Countless times a day there are instances of at least one of these. While I can tolerate the 1/up & Grandstanding, the glory-hog behaviors need to be stopped.

I think we all know this behavior. This is a type of behavior where a person will manipulate situations in a way that makes them look good while simultaneously making someone else look bad. In this case, this person is only partially engaged “UNTIL” there is a way that they can conduct this manipulation; you can see the rush of excitement on their face and/or hear it in their voice when they realize they have an opportunity to exploit their god-like delusions while diminishing the worth of another.

I have had ENOUGH; while I do not like the way I reacted & could have stated that the behavior needed to stop in a better way, I am very PROUD of MYSELF for CONFRONTING this person since due to the persons reaction last time, I am terrified of their retribution seeking behaviors.

I don’t think the person will change, as when I apologized for my shortness & asked them to please stay in their lane in the future, they immediately excused their behavior by masking it with altruism (I did it because I’m a good person); this is no surprise.

I don’t GAF if the person changes or learns, that is not my problem. however, THEY ARE NOT GOING TO PERPETRATE GLORY HOG BULLSHIT which aims to decrease my value.

This type of manipulation is perpetrated by weak insecure individuals trying to alleviate negative internal scripts & emotions; IT IS OBNOXIOUS.

While I Did not confront the person in the most effective manner possible (I can do better); I am proud that I leaned into conflict. It’s a step in the right direction