LET ME BE CLEAR. There is a difference between an overweight woman who understands she needs to make some changes and a “fat bitch”.

There are many overweight women who interact with the world in a respectful and socially acceptable manner. These women know themselves and accept themselves to a certain degree and do not make it the problem of “others” to validate or meet their unmet or unrecognized psychological needs. They know they need to change but have not figured out how to do this yet; my hope for all of them is they find a healthier way, and I thank them for not making the way they feel about themselves or their bodies anyone else’s burden.

A “fat bitch”, on the other hand is an overlording, domineering, controlling, manipulative, grandiose & disgusting human being who believes that society should bend to her inadequacies such as lack of discipline, lack of accountability, lack of self-control, lack of integrity, and complete lack of ability to sit with and be honest with themselves. These women, who are weak in character, choose to bully others, blame others, martyrize themselves, and self-glorify in order to alleviate whatever negative feelings they have about themselves. In other words, they make their “shit” the problem of others and rank high in qualities that align with personal aity disorders.

I do not respect you; I do not believe anything you say. Your body and the way you “throw your weight around” demanding some types of respect are despicable. You do not get to control me when you can’t even control what you launch into your mouth. You will not get respect from me when you choose to do the wrong thing for your body on a daily basis while preaching your altruism. Blubbering self-importance with no evidence to support it is the recipe of the “fat bitch”.

You will not bully me or disrespect me and then expect me to feel sorry for you. Your disgusting body and personality are the result of the choices you have made every single fuckin day. You have the same options as anyone else. You are a reflection of every poor excuse you have made.

I work with three very overweight women, only one of them is a “fat bitch” and I do believe that there are more overweight women than fat bitches. However, fat bitches oftentimes stick together which can be difficult for those in their wake as they will conjure up ways in which to victimize themselves by creating narratives where normal healthy people have somehow “done” something to them, or have bullied them, or threatened them. BITCH, you are fucked in the head and are threatened by anything that challenges your narrative that your body is in anyway normal or NOT YOUR OWN FAULT, such as saying you are fat because your mamma was fat.

Thankfully for me, the lone “fat bitch” at my workplace was left by her upper management posse of fat bitches so now she is left without any allies who will share the victimhood status with her. For a long time, when the “fat bitch” posse ruled, I had to kiss her fat ass every day so she would feel validated and leave me the fuck alone. I am now free; I am not obligated to interact with her in the way she thinks she is entitled to.

Oh, and also to be clear, you don’t need to be FAT to be a “fat bitch”, there are select women who fall into the category who are not humongous and possess all the manipulative characteristics with the victimhood and pick me bitch traits.